Fear

16/03/2024 Nilson Lattari

Fear is a universal emotion. Some people say, I don’t know why, that everybody is afraid. I imagine that there is fear everywhere, e.g., when we see cockroaches, scorpions, or, simply, we have to speak to an audience, or we try to say to someone “Do you want to be my love”?
On the other hand, there is courage, thus if there is fear and courage everywhere and we can try to identify a difference between brave and cowardly people. We can identify this difference when brave people confront their fears and cowardly people don’t do the same. Of course, we can discuss about what brave or cowardly people mean or simply fearful people. Brave people can be wilful, independent, or simply they are crazy people. In this case, we can say that cowardly people would be fearful, but we can say that they can be cautious or people who love life, especially their own life. Thus, they can be people who don’t want to take risks.
Our debate is about where the fear is: in brave or cowardly people. Maybe, our fears may stem from personal traumas, tragedies and failures we experienced in the past and we don’t want to repeat them.
We don’t want to relive them because they are memories that cause fear in us. This behaviour doesn’t define someone as a cowardly person, but the one who has a large life experience. We should consider that these circumstances make fearful people mature individuals who try to avoid new and unnecessary risks.
We can say that those who confront their fears and reach their goals as people who experience a sense of freedom, and their behaviours can provoke jealousy in others. Brave people, e.g., travel the world to meet different people and explore new places. They are brave enough to leave their comfort zones to contact unknown worlds personally. They have the opportunity to observe what is happening outdoors. Their spirits of adventurous are fascinating, in my opinion, because they are people who enjoy their free lifestyle.
Cowardly and fearful people don’t try new experiences in their lives and remain alone, hiding from the world to enjoy their solitude. On the other hand, these people enjoy their freedom within their comfort zones. In reality, this behaviour is a choice, a personal choice.
Of course, if we want to find answers we will need to make questions. And to know life it is important to explore, touch and feel the flow of life. Living requires a specific and particular courage.
I’m not speaking about the courage to beat everybody and become an aggressive person. No, this kind of courage is unnecessary and reveals a deep fear of suffering an aggression and not courage to overcome obstacles. However, crazy people do crazy things sometimes and they are stunning, and have a touch of curiosity.
We need a bit of courage, at certain moments, and we need to confront our shyness and shame. When we remember our past and identify how many opportunities we lost in life such as meeting new people and places and possible loves because we lacked a touch of maturity or courage to pour the last drop of water to fill a glass… Well, we tend to admire brave people. They are happy and enjoy their freedom, and they have a lot of stories stemming from their adventures whereabout they delight in conversations with friends and relatives.
Adventurers become the most interesting person in conversations, when they describe their life experiences and speak about unknown cultures. Fearful people tell us about their fears and phobias as if they were the most important things in life. Nevertheless, the strange is interesting and intrigues us too. Let me tell you that, in my opinion, it is important to have courage and not be ashamed to confess failures and sins.
Somehow, fear is a peculiar aspect of human nature, and this peculiarity can be an opportunity to learn new things. If fear causes losses, these losses happen because we are living and experiencing life. Our failures can be moments of courage in the future.