The art of seduction

10/05/2021 Nilson Lattari

The “experts” teach that if we want to seduce or to persuade someone, we must say the words registered in the dictionary of love. I wonder if it’s possible. There are many ways to seduce. What do you need to say? Is it important to show someone your qualities, like a package of wishes to attract the other person? Would the other one like to buy it?
The art of seduction would be similar to the selling process. In a good sales course, the instructor teaches that none can sell what the others don’t want to buy. It’s true. You cannot sell products if they really don’t belong to the circle of desires of someone.
Then, the basic rule is to understand who the other is, what their wishes are, what’s capable of making someone looks at something with pleasure and bright in their eyes.
Self-confidence is the key to attract someone, being friendly or even becoming someone’s hero. We hear people say that it’s possible to steal someone’s heart, or the art of seduction is the art of attraction, even if that one is not interested in us: that’s another lie! We don’t seduce someone if he or she doesn’t want it. Therefore, we believe the art of seduction is a match between two desires looking forward to the same thing.
It begins when a pair of eyes finds another one (nobody exchanges looks uninterestedly). They approach each other. They want to know things about each other, and then, the seducers think that everything is happening because he or she is capable of seducing. The arrogance makes the seducers think they are getting in control of the situation. When, in fact, the supposed seducer is the victim, like a naive animal in trouble going to a trap.
There is too much pretension in the art of seduction, isn’t there?
For the eyes of a lover, a silent being is a shy one; a clown, who makes the lover laughs, is only a funny lover. The extremes look for each other.
An attraction happens many times, for instance, when it comes from hate, from curiosity but never from indifference. Indifference is a cold case, a big problem to solve.
We don’t dominate anyone because, simply, none is a trophy in a competition. And none is an object of seduction or desire. Actually, when someone feels attraction to another one, he or she tries to be a hero. Seduction is a lie, a beautiful lie.
In love, sometimes, it’s not enough to seduce someone. By the way, it’s not necessary. To seduce a heart, it’s not necessary to conquer it and calculate some strategies. At the end, it’s enough to ask and to take risks. The great price of seduction is the surprise.