Looking for the “right person”

17/10/2025 Nilson Lattari

I have always heard this expression: I’m waiting for the “right person” to get married. I think that this expression belongs to our youth, when we first discover love. Moreover, I have had it in older people’s conversations, mainly among those who have tried many times to find such a “right person”.
Definitely, this “right person” exists only in our imagination and must be a kind of Jeannie, the famous character on the TV series in the 70s, who lived in a magic lamp and adored her “master”. Of course, we can picture this character as either a man or a woman, depending on the perspective.
I imagine that this quest is similar to meeting someone perfect for us, made in our image and like us, as if we were gods. If we think clearly, even Eve is questioned, although she was created from Adam’s rib and should have been the “right person” for him. In the end, Eve messed up Paradise, and Adam was thrown out and got a kick in the pants, even though he wasn’t directly responsible for the riot. Adam’s father stuck his powerful nose in, and look what happened.
In fact, the key to this question is being loved and loving too. Perhaps we must try to be the “right person” for the other and be loved in return. In the end, looking for the “right person” is really about self-reflection and reassessing our behaviour, and whether we are capable of pleasing someone. At the same time, the partner might walk alongside us and think the same way. In short, in theory, we are not really looking for another person, but for ourselves.
This way of thinking doesn’t always work out. Keeping a family together was always a hard choice between our dreams and reality. This situation has caused discomfort in couples, and those who always agree with their partners, just to keep their relationship, perhaps the end may still be bad.
Relationships can begin spontaneously or because of sentimental, financial or other conditions that bring people together.
Some people say we don’t marry the ones we truly love. This thought is not totally correct, but it does happen often. How many couples get married under pressure from age, family, friends or influences that confuse their minds?
Sometimes, we meet someone who makes us feel good. But when this relationship ends, why do some people try to find in others the same personality or image? When we find the one we imagine to be perfect, the end is not often what we want.
Relationships are always a box of surprises – this is a phrase often repeated by people. But we only really know someone when we decide to share the same spaces.
In my opinion, looking for the “right person” is always a life experience, a test of endurance. If we can prolong these relationships to their limits and then raise a family, that may be the best, or not. In reality, it is always a box of surprises.
Even when we experience “the best of worlds” one day, everything can change, because along the way, the partner may meet another “right person”, who exists only in our minds.