Before the party

        Why do we need to be ready before parties?
        When we go out, we must present ourselves like a gift showing our best to others. We wear clothes as if they are wrapping paper, prepared to meet people or a close companion.
        It is the question: Are we dressing to impress others or are we doing it for our own pleasures?
       It’s not a complicated situation. There was a time when some people were celebrated for their character or actions. People generally admired this special group of people for their thoughts. Their opinions were well-known and people paid attention to their demeanour. The demeanour of this group of people, their willingness to sacrifice their well-being or time for others with honour, and … well, these romantic events occurred a long time ago, in a distant time.
       Today, these behaviours are different. We can observe many situations around us, hidden behind the simple act of combing hair or wearing beautiful shoes. This behaviour is called Cultural Hedonism – a motivation to experience a lifestyle of sensual and material pleasures. Why not? The question is: Where and what is the pleasure? When do we enjoy ourselves? When do we really love someone and not ourselves?, or Why do we seduce others?
        Today, in times of social media, social life can be defined as the devotion to our own actions and not to others. We post our lives and expose ourselves to present a picture that is often not true. Some people display a form of Narcissism where the mirror reflex envy for the lives of others, or for those who seem to be living their lives with pleasure and happiness.
        The act of combing hair and making it more beautiful, or aesthetic, cannot be compared to preparing our hearts for a date or a simple walk alone. What would it be like to prepare our hearts to go out? An unlikely reflection. It’s like asking our hearts what they are feeling. I might say that going out with our hearts prepared is a step towards understanding what is happening around us, beyond behaviours and etiquette.
        When we prepare our hearts, is it a way to hide them from the world? Do we attempt to protect ourselves from the madness of the world, because we don’t want our hearts to realize it?

Photo from: Foto de Adi Goldstein na Unsplash

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